Being both a Dominant and a submissive means being uncomfortable, being vulnerable, open, honest, truthful, respectful, have a sense of humor, and a willingness to fail and grow from those failures. Some of you know and have known for a long time that you were one or the other. Some of you may have times where you feel Dominant and at other times submissive (this is called a Switch). Wherever you fall, just be really honest with yourself about who you are and know that whoever you are and however you identify, you is amazing and never let anyone make you feel otherwise. Coming up next...

If you want to know if your relationship is healthy, here are 10 Ultimate Signs of A Healthy Relationship. Every day, when I wake up I would like an message telling me what you are going to wear that day and the name placement. Undergarments are to be included. Being submissive is about trusting your man enough to let him show you the way sometimes. Many women ask how not to be boring in their relationship.I grew up thinking sex was shameful,’ Monieau adds. ‘I didn’t even know what masturbation really was, but I knew it was bad. Before you get into BDSM, you need to work out what you really want from submission. If you have a sign saying you’re here for the taking, people will take advantage of it.’

She has to let her guard down, peel off the mask and look of ‘steel’ and be free. Just look to your man as a possible source of strength for you when you might need it.

I also have an article that may help you with discerning who to trust and whom not to trust. You can read it here: Why You Can’t Trust People & 6 Hidden Signs They’re Untrustworthy. Submissives have to work on themselves first,’ she explains. ‘A lot of subs fall into the trap of wanting a dominant to basically just fix all their problems.